Three Little Words
Posted on 12 August 2008 by Sharifa
No hidden meaning this time, have no doubt that I am referring to those words that everyone, man or woman, longs to hear. I have to say, the wonderful BF that I’ve referenced in so many of posts has yet to utter those words. In all honesty, some days I want to just grab him by the shoulders, shake him and scream, “for the love of God, say it already!” However, being the kind of person that I am, I take a few deep breathes and just enjoy or blissful relationship and figure he’ll say it when he’s ready. How can I keep a clear head concerning this issue? Well I’ve had more than my fair share of boyfriend’s declare their undying love for me in a timely manner, and each one of those relationships went up in smoke. Don’t get me wrong, the words were nice to hear, but the actions…well, they just didn’t follow suit. Because my BF’s used the “L” word they thought that gave them the right to exploit my generosity and walk all over me. They found out that I’m not the one for all that mess and drama. Do I think my current BF loves me? Yes, I have no doubt in my mind. Do I love him? OMG, yes; without question. He’s the only person in the whole world that I’m most like myself with, outside of my family. He gets me. When I spontaneously burst into little jiggs, he jumps up and joins me and we create our own dance. When he asks me a question and I sing my response, he just shakes his head and laughs. When I show up at his place with a scowl, the first thing out of his mouth is “What’s wrong?” The best part is that the inquiry isn’t made in an annoyed half-ass manner. I could go on and on with all the little things but I have other work to get done. My point is, so he hasn’t just looked me square in the eyes and said, “Sharifa, I love you.” At the end of the day, that’s OK. For now I’m more than happy to settle for the gestures.
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Tags | advice, love, relationships
August 20th, 2008 at 8:00 am
Nicely put dear friend. Love is a VERB! YES hearing the words provides confirmation, affirmation, and any other -mation you can think of but at the end of the day love is SHOWN. Someone can say they love you all day long but if they are never there for you when you REALLY need them (void of selfish motives) then the love is just not there. On the other hand someone who may not be into “telling” people how they feel can express “love” in other ways (a listening ear, encouragement, etc). Love shows most clearly when a situation arises that has nothing at all to do with the other person yet they are there to offer assistance with the issue (again a listening ear, encouragement, sympathy, etc.) If this is a true story then I am happy to see you found love..although I still at times think how it would have been if I had a “shot” at you :). I guess thats not here nor there anymore, the point is we are both happy and I can honestly say that I am grateful that you are :)!